When my baby lay dying, we called all to our home to meet her, to hold her, to kiss her goodbye. When everyone departed, we lay on our bed with baby at rest, spooned between, and I slept. While I was sleeping, she took her last breath, swaddled in a yellow rose blanket, smelling of powder and lotion. When my father lay dying, We were called to his side. We sat, stood around the bed, told stories, laughed, wiped tears, and sighed. After a night and a day I walked out to rest. While I slept, he took his last breath. Then we sat and waited and remembered as his spirit fully left. When my mother lay dying, we called all to her home, as we sat, cooked, ate, and talked, laughed, and cried, for five days and nights. At dusk she lay quiet. Leaving my brother to sit vigil, I slept. She took her last breath. Seconds later, I was at her side. We washed her body and adorned her with rose petals and oil. When my sister lay dying, I slept in my bed, then awakened from a phone call to rush to her side after she drew her last breath. I sat with tears, spoke to her spirit as memories of her sweetness and her challenges washed over me— the joy, the delight, the losses that formed her life. Now, I wonder, will I wake before I die?
“Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now, take what’s left and live it properly. What doesn’t transmit light creates its own darkness.”
Marcus Aurelius
“If you are living every experience fully, then death doesn’t take anything from you. There’s nothing to take because you’re already fulfilled. That’s why the wise being is always ready to die.”
Seneca
“Death is a stripping away of all that is not you. The secret of life is to ‘die before you die’ and find that there is no death.”
Eckhart Tolle
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