The Anniversary

For Leo

Leo and Janis August 28, 1970
The Anniversary

Oh, how the years fly by,
all 52 since we said, “I do,”
how young we were back then.
At 19 and 21 we faced as adults,
then moved, believing us one.
We soon found four legs stumble 
when bound, and we struggled to
find our path. 

With war and separations, 
adding school and then babes,
the road brought both sorrow and joy.
We navigated sharp twists and turns,
peaks and valleys, and at times 
feared losing our way. When
death took one babe, and grief found us, 
our hearts fought feeling defeat.

Family and friends, our children and love, 
contained us as we grieved. We allowed ourselves 
to grow, to seek, to doubt, until we believed.
To believe again in life, the movement of it all,
and walk with grace through strife.
We gaze back at the road traversed and know in truth
there is nothing more to be said. Dust has settled, and
we now see, the roads chosen to make us free.

We gather it in and bless it so, 
it is ours, our passage to know.
Life is an adventure and
what is ahead we do not see, but
lean in, to allow letting go.
Gratitude expressed in each new day,
brings peace to our hearts anew. Spirit rises
and shines on today in our labor and our play.

The journey goes on as the road beckons,
the work of love laughs on into dawn.
The generations continue to grow, we
feel the love they so freely give 
and open our hearts to joy. We will walk with them 
as far as we are able, then trust them to carry the torch.
To light the way for others to follow
as they cast hope in a bright new day.

“Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate, dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.”

Amy Bloom

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” 


“There is no secret to a long marriage – it is hard work…it is serious business, and certainly not for cowards.” 

Ossie Davis

Ongoing Resource List: Reading for Heart and Mind

  • Forever Ours: Real Stories of Immortality and Living by Janis Amatuzio
  • Personal Power Through Awareness by Sanaya Roman
  • Violence & Compassion by His Holiness the Dahlai Lama
  • Teachings on Love by Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Devotions by Mary Oliver
  • To Bless the Space Between Us by John O’Donohue
  • Meditations From the Mat by Rolf Gates and Katrina Kenison
  • The House of Belonging: poems by David Whyte
  • Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain and Illness, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • The Faraway Nearby by Rebecca Solnit
  • Soul an Archaeology Edited by Phil Cousineau
  • A Path With Heart by Jack Kornfield
  • Listening Point by Sigurd Olson
  • I Sit Listening to the Wind by Judith Duerk
  • Dancing Moons by Nancy Wood
  • The Soul of Rumi, Translations by Coleman Barks
  • Keep Going by Joseph M. Marshall III
  • Arriving at your own Door by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
  • The Hidden Secrets of Water by Paolo Consigli
  • Conquest of Mind by Eknath Easwaran
  • Color: A Natural History of the Palette by Victoria Finlay
  • Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t) by Brene Brown
  • Practicing Peace in Times of War by Pema Chodron
  • When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron
  • On Death and Dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  • Unattended Sorrow by Stephen Levine
  • Joy in Loving, Mother Theresa
  • The Joy of Living by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
  • Let Your LIfe Speak by Parker Palmer
  • Zen and the Art of Saving the Planet by Thich Nhat Hanh
  • The Essence of the Upanishads by Eknath Easwaran
  • Welcoming the Unwelcome by Pema Chodron
  • Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer
  • Medicine Cards: The Discovery of Power Through The Ways Of Animals by Jamie Sams and David Carson
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